so today is about relationship how can you show the relationship but first I would like to answer some questions concerning open awareness meditation does it help to do breathing in positive emotions and reading out negative emotions the foot so open awareness is another word main is just you know yes what we call let your mind be as it is the sense of presence being source but at the same time you're not this particular meditation open awareness on Ziegler's meditation is resting with itself so open awareness meditation and then but the important the students there one is you're not particular focus anything the mind be with itself so sense of presence and of loss not meditating and natural and natural so that is the open awareness meditation I'm taking a breath I'm controlling my breathing and I get restless what should I do so if you are controlling lead control there's no problem because whoa but let me come to don't try to stop contour if you try to stop control your breath and you will control more so not like intentionally control I need to go to my breath like that not like paella no you have to control your breath so here we are not purchasing premium so you don't need to control just just Nestle and then when you meditate the bread becomes low automatically deep breathing sometimes it happens nah bro sometime shallow breath no prob sometimes deep breath no prob something just a little bit control no problem so that's totally okay so whatever happen happens um gives me a lot of balance how to keep this peaceful state of mind in the interactions with the people so how to keep this peaceful meditation interaction with the people so there's two kinds of meditation one is formal meditation formal meditation meaning you're on the cushion with there keeping the right posture like keeping your spine straight relax your body and close eyes at the beginning later you can open eyes which makes it also and keep silent these are formal measures but the informal meditation is very important so informal meditation really helps you to to bring the peace with the interaction with other people so in informal meditation as you can meditate everywhere anytime with anything you don't need to necessarily always keep the posture of close your eyes you can meditate while watching my video driving car in the future now you sleep staying in home right or while cooking in the home you know cutting the vegetables doing physical exercise drinking yeah eating sleeping anytime everywhere short time many times so you pass on the breathing short just few glimpse of your breath or listen to sound awareness or the body or the open awareness meditation for those are you can do so this really helps to bring this into everyday life yeah do you have advice for healthcare workers to keep up a high level of energy and compassion yeah I think it's very important to do meditation for the health workers and if this time try to sleep well in the night and in the night if you cannot sleep well then do the awareness of the body in the last session I taught about awareness of the body and the sensation right so you can lie down and first feel the gravity in the body so let's fill the ground but you try to relax your muscles in your body you feel the weight route and then you scan your body from head to feet again in the end you keep your mind around your neighbor area so that is very good for silica also and then I Nestle and it's like me it's not salute you know into this so then a similar benefit st devotion so let go of looking for silicon do this in the night special if you have a stressful life busy taking care of others anybody I know of you can do that and then in the morning wake up to some meditation clicking meditation special aware of the sensation and before recorders will also do this meditation and and if you can even you have some time to some aerobics I in between just like that also will be good when I'm angry I can't stop using bad words if other person raise the voice how can I stop this reaction yeah so I think you can of course you want to change this reaction you need to first step normally there's three practice awareness love and compassion and wisdom tree so now I'm teaching this this step is that we already begin the Venice first is awareness of awareness of the breath sound mental hesitation some of you already listened this before right remember second is awareness of the sensation in the body and third what we did is open awareness meditation last time so these are the awareness meditation so now when you absorb these some time kind of low automatic kind of automatically good you don't have to sit back you don't need to just much just just to be aware so as soon as if you catch these habits and that really begin to liberate actually of course it's not free within a few days happy will come back again again but I can discipline just just cast right now as Earth's the sensation in the body there's a image – believe there's some for my knees it's just watch just watch so that eventually it will really helps if I will at peace I'm and my practice it is okay yeah you need to think about when you meditate also helping others what we call – if you really want to help others first you should help yourself if you can transform this is really nice good influence workers so in this world if everybody tried to transform themselves the world become a better place if we don't want to transfer ourself we want to transform or change the world then in the human history you don't want to change the world that's the end up being disaster not big problem so the friends family people society whoever can connect to and end of the meditation you can dedicate to support for special nowadays we have this global pandemic so they detect therefore a 3ds pandemic soon you can meditate of course but with the sense of meaning with a sense of love and compassion 21 okay so now I got the list of questions so I will stop here now I will continue relationship so normally what we call any kind of relationship relationship with friends family relationship between you and society or relationship between teacher and student so there's four things that we need to sister so some can what we call for activities for enlighten activities so these four enlighten activities is to help others so if you help others and that help you and both win-win situation in order to tell others you need to help yourself also you know sometimes I mean I first time when I went through the airplane and they teach us how to use them because why it's quite circus but later I learned that if you don't help your this is really important that interdependent so helping you is also helping others have been others also helping to you so to know about this into each other so what are these for octagon is development or enrich enriching equity and the third is magnetized magnetizing acted and the last is the powerful actors so peaceful develop magnetized powerful so therefore a to consider about this when you want to improve the relationship between peaceful activity so peaceful activity is we nice smile is also really important that at the beginning anything when we interfere with other people sometimes we have habit the moment of we face something we see something and sometimes there's certainly reaction comes many of these are unconsciously kind of automatic reactions problem may be temple many people come to me and she part that especially nowadays we are having this pain gaming so everybody together now and now everything magnifies so what happened is problem in the end become big problem somebody says or put this watch you know here you're gonna see right so let's say here and if I said no no no yeah the flowers should go here I told you flowers or somebody you know working on online and your friend one of their family members friends so you know working moving making noise or big problem isn't it so at the beginning sometime more sub problems are the very small things then we hold on then this we have some kind of life send so no tens of shoot this the way is a leave involved and then so many things that comes together then is if you can pick up you pick up in the end the relationship become big problem then there's it become habit of arguing all the time so listen listening is really really important so many people don't know how to listen now let's just one to say they want to cut when other people say something just want to cut and just say if other people want to share that then totally share some time just listening become the best solution special with the relationship of course for the relationship it been my argument I am right I told you so what happened even never been so it's the really important listen so once you listen sometime the best solution just listening listening if you cut open you you erase your opinion and your idea that we will share then you raise your opinion I really listen openly same thing exactly same work it makes different so listening is a really important so therefore the peaceful activity is patient listening be there gentle smile all these are always be activity sometimes more so sometimes we need to have what before development in reach so the development activity is create something creativity is really important especially with the relationship especially with the family friend up just sometimes but if you continually continue continue to do well or just explore together or learn each other every time so some scientists they said something the relationship who the people who has good relationship healthy relationship and relationship we pass along the one who really learned tried to learn is try to explore something together try to get something creativity something new something improved something grow together I think this aspect is also really really important and then the number three number three is magnetized so this is comes as like role model your example and you make s source of inspiration source of kind of life ng so example inspiration authentic these are really important sometime you know people come to me and they join the meditation and they feel very happy and then they said well this meditation helps how can I teach to my family members husband wife or children or grandpa grandma or something normally I told them don't teach them show them so if you are one of the family member and you learn meditation here and go back to home and if you become teacher in achieve them never walk so show the meaning in meditate if you just form then they will really something different I think there's something really benefit I want to learn this how your should get this so saying hundred saying one thing is really important so these are so number three and number four powerful powerful activity is sometimes not always not have no roof at single and also people letting go of the relationship so one way is funny right but remember as I mentioned before letting go is not giving up so let it go meaning relation you have to start a business but the artist a certain level you need to let go so gives based give more kind of like freedom not always looking for you have to be there you have to understand me you have to support many habits you know many people come to me they come they say I'm looking for mr.
perfect and mr.
perfect and what and or he or she had to be meditators you know sandy beach is possibly and then listen always there be there for me Anderson there for me support them or cost so lot of this and I'm saying this Phi to be call you know I will pray of course but sir very difficult to get mr.
perfect and miss the perfect so normally I said mister okay missus okay is good if you look for mr.
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perfect there's a problem then the delusion become tight and then you're become bears and then something slightly wrong it's become huge problem so then if you know about solutions up and down nobody supporting but it's okay you can learn you can grow you can understand together and whatever every each person has appreciate all the good finger qualities nine of them are positive one negative normally what he sees only one negative and we exaggerate one negative isn't it so so appreciate all these things but at the same time I believe we haven't done so and special if there's no really meant to be or sometime there's no really each person has doesn't find the connect the boundary balance ground rules all these are powerful so it's for activities and which one you should do of course always begin with the peaceful activity which development activity and magnetize these three are really important and the last is the balance I mean the park the ground or all this but of course all these are this fall independent person trying to give together so these are the four activities how to measure the relationship so now I would like to share two story so this is a true story many years back there's a couple company husband in life so this couple having love problem the main problem is the husband all always want to control she's all worried worried about it so then they both are not happy yeah I'm doing everyday morning mother not even literally again again for there again so then they both are really not happy suffer you know suffer a lot and they come to me testing power and then suddenly remove their relationship rather to remove the our relationship from so I told them I don't have any so when I told them I gonna power to remain your problem just like that and hold on little bit disappointed so then they said anything from you it's okay please help us okay I will give you an advice and value space from today on you both have to make half our time every day and during this half hour try to discuss about the positive things even easier positive talk so try to appreciate whatever quality within each other person then grab the truth about those connectives and then back and after three weeks later a body cam then they both have hours too long because when they try to discuss these positive things within each other now first time when I met you we have this negative things so then now you know they cannot say my heart's and time is too long for them so then they said hmm what do you do yeah I told them okay I will give you a discount so the discount is non-meat half hour now only five minutes is up and they both are very happy very good just five minute they say they can do five minute discussion a positive discussion then back and I haven't met them for one year after one here they come and they've got a very heavy looks a very heavy and they said now half hours make enough so now their discussion some kind of positive discussion more than half hours not working but then it works very well five minutes is easy so then they discuss about this some colleges with actually they try they like each other know each other they have time care about yourself so eventually there relationships quite good and at the same time they try to understand each other and they both have some kind of life they brought in some kind of a personal personality some day and personality cannot change right but then they accept they both personality and they put sense of humor on them so the husband they give men each other the husband's name is control free and the wives Newman is worry free today what laughter so they understand each other's personality sometime man has been bought out husband said the most powerful person in the world is coming and then wide open the door she said the most warriors poison won't come to that this is a really improvement really great so I think this couple they really try to understand each other learn and they try to grow then it's a peaceful activity but then they try to grow understand LAN is and both are trying to do a role model try to inspire pizza then they have ground block they both and they agree with other to have some kind of like anything then that helped both each other so that some kind of ruler also really so this way I think this is really change so normally what we believe is we all have great in make goodness some time what we call our igniting nature basic in it goodness the our original nature or the the original purity the ordinal purity is our fundamental nature so you all have awareness love and compassion wisdom skills capacities a heart of things bear within yourself and actually you are more than what you think of so this is really important to understand it's ok so now I will do short guide meditation so this guided meditation we can revisit living meditation and the awareness of the body but now I'm going to add new element here's appreciation gratitude gratitude above that you have displacement breath and have this body in the same session so we will do this together simply and relaxed muscles in your body please close your eyes and now please to be aware of your breath [Music] now leaves appreciate that you have this breath inhaling oxygen oxygen exhaling carbon and that helps life force of entire body really appreciate appreciate that you are alive now it is one of mine I appreciate that you have this body you have the hair there's a brain amazing when is amazing appreciate you have said you have spine organ we have Han appreciate that open hand legs and there's a mind and their minds feels everything this about the world and the fundamental measure of mine is awareness awareness is free it's free present view this awareness is with us all the time for one when there's a love compassion actually behind of every emotion every times we are not recognized that's all that is gone now the thing of the person your friends or family member they're described qualities appreciate them thank them they have awareness love and compassion wisdom school and tell them that they are part of your life and wish may they be happy may they be peace Marleen slot opening and I appreciate that whatever you see in front of you you have this wonderful sensor can interact with objects oh okay this so please continue apply maybe some of you already been practicing every day five minutes so you can extend maybe every day seven minutes or maybe ten minutes of formal practice extending your formal practice and then also try to apply this meditation while cooking watching the news cleaning your house or whatever your activities you do at your home so short time any time of light is special when you are facing them issue with the relationship sometime this typical situations are really become the teacher okay so today there's no question because of connection is not so well so maybe there is not so well today maybe that's why enemy impermanence right up and down so I hope you can learn from this up and down but it doesn't mean that was that the problem so this the end we will find some other citizens also okay thank you so I think we will stop here for today.
