Brainy Dose Presents: How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 PsychologicalTips When we are meeting someone for the firsttime, we are bombarded with information.
It can be hard to work out what kind of personthey are.
That’s why it’s important to understandHOW we communicate.
According to experts, 55% of what we conveycomes from body language, 38% from the tone of voice, and only 7% from what we actuallysay.
This means that when we meet someone for thefirst time, we have to take into account these three factors – in addition to what a person’sappearance may suggest.
So, if you want to gain insight into someone’spersonality when you first meet them, pay attention to the following clues – startingfrom the head down! Number 1 – Eye Contact They often say that the eyes are the windowto the soul.
The key to knowing which kind of eye contactsomeone is giving you, is to consider the context.
For example, if a person literally can’ttake their eyes off you, it could mean there’s a romantic interest.
On the other hand, when you look someone inthe eye, and they can’t bring themselves to look back at you, it’s a sign that they’reeither nervous, or they’ve got something to hide.
That said, if you’re talking with someonewhose stare is making you squirm – especially if they’re very still and not blinking – somethingis definitely up, and they may be lying to you.
Number 2 – Eyebrows If you want to see how comfortable a personis, take a look at their eyebrows! There are three main emotions that make youreyebrows go up: surprise, worry, and fear.
Try raising your eyebrows when you’re havinga relaxed casual conversation with a friend.
It’s hard to do, isn’t it? If someone talking to you raises their eyebrows, and the topic isn’t one that would logically cause surprise, worry, or fear, it’s a signthat they’re feeling pretty uncomfortable.
Number 4 – Smile When it comes to smiling, the mouth can lie, but the eyes can’t.
Genuine smiles reach the eyes, crinkling theskin to create crow’s feet around them.
People often smile to hide what they’rereally thinking and feeling, so the next time you want to know if somebody’s smile isgenuine, look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes.
If they aren’t there, that smile is hidingsomething! Number 5 – What They Say If you’re meeting someone for the firsttime, and all they do is talk about their wonderful better half or praise their workcolleagues, chances are, they’re a pretty decent person themselves.
Studies show, that the more people rate othersas being kind, polite, loving and well-mannered, the more likely they are to also possess thesetraits.
However, the reverse is also true.
Anyone backstabbing and describing othersas manipulative and nasty, is more likely to have these traits themselves.
It’s also possible that they have a historyof depression or personality disorder.
Number 6 – Paralanguage Paralanguage is nonverbal communication suchas your tone, pitch or manner of speaking.
Basically, it’s a fancy way of saying thatyou need to pay attention to how someone says something.
For example, if someone is answering you inmonotone, they’re most likely unattached to your concept and not interested.
The use of sarcasm is another good example.
When someone uses sarcasm, what the personmeans is actually the opposite of what the words say.
So, pay attention to the emphasis they puton words and how they say it.
It gives you a big clue as to what their trueintentions are.
Number 7 – Side Glance People that are warm and open to meeting you, will have their body facing you and they will look you in the eye.
On the flip side, if you’ve just met someoneand they immediately glance away to the side, this is a subconscious body language signthat means they are looking for an escape.
Number 8 – Frequent Nodding Nodding is usually a sign that someone agreeswith you.
But, exaggerated nodding may signal anxiety, about approval.
When you’re telling someone something, andthey nod excessively, this means that they are worried about what you think of them, or that you doubt their ability to follow your instructions.
On the other hand, frequent nodding couldalso be unconscious gestures that are cues for the other person to get a move on – justlike when a person keeps looking at their watch or touches their car keys.
Number 9 – Chin And Jaw When someone is trying to make a decision, they tend to rub their chin.
They might be looking up, down, or to theside.
It’s a sure sign that they are deep in thought.
A clenched jaw is a sign of stress.
Regardless of what the person is saying, thisindicates a considerable level of discomfort.
The conversation may be heading toward somethingthey’re anxious about; or their mind may be elsewhere, and they’re focusing on thething that’s stressing them out.
Number 10 – Posture How someone carries themselves can give yousome indications about their self confidence.
For example, if someone is walking uprightwith their shoulders back and looking straight ahead, that gives the indication that theyfeel good about themselves and have confidence.
However, if someone is slouching over andlooking at the ground when they walk, that gives a much different impression.
It may not necessarily mean that they havelow self-esteem, but that’s the message it gives off.
Number 11 – Rubbing Hands It is believed that the hands broadcast whatthe head is thinking.
When a person is rubbing their hands together, generally it means that they have a positive feeling about something.
People usually do this when they are hopefulabout something good coming up in the future, and they’re excited about it.
Number 12 – Handshake You can tell a lot by a person’s handshake.
Soft and flabby – and they are likely to besubmissive or a pushover.
Too hard and crushing – and they are possiblydomineering types.
The length of time is also important.
Too long and it’s weird, but too short couldindicate some form of conflict.
It’s possible that the person does not wantto make a deep connection with you.
But, it could also mean that they don’thave much time.
Number 13 – Leaning In, Or Away If a person leans in toward you, it’s aclear indication that they are interested in what you have to say.
What you might not know, is that it’s alsoa sign of respect.
When people come closer and lean in towardyou during a conversation, it shows that they want to confide in you.
It makes you feel trustworthy and valued.
If someone leans back however, they show thatthey are tired of the conversation, or perhaps they feel uncomfortable for some reason.
Number 14 – Holding The Baby Ok…this might seem like a strange one, butit’s good to know.
If you’re meeting someone for the firsttime, and they just happen to be a new mother, look at what arm they use to hold the baby.
Studies show that happy moms tend to holdtheir babies in their left arm.
While stressed and depressed mothers usuallyhold their babies in their right arm.
Number 15 – Crossed Arms And Legs Have you ever had a conversation with someonewho crossed their arms or legs while you were talking to them? If you’re on a first date, or if you’retrying to pitch someone a new idea, it’s not a good sign.
Crossed arms and legs are physical barriersthat suggest the other person is not open to what you’re saying.
Even if they’re smiling and engaged in apleasant conversation, their body language tells the story.
Psychologically, crossed legs or arms, signalthat a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically blocked off from what’s in frontof them.
On the same note, the direction of someone’sfeet are also quite revealing.
A person that likes you, will have both feetfacing in your direction.
However, if their feet shift toward the door, it means they’ve had enough and want to leave.
Number 16 – Shoes A person’s shoes can tell you a lot abouttheir personality.
Apparently, we all make judgments about people’sshoes, but studies show that they are pretty accurate.
– Nervous people will have new or very cleanshoes – Amiable types will wear practical shoes- Calm people have an affinity for uncomfortable shoes- And aggressive people wear ankle boots Just take a look at your own shoes.
Does your personality type fit in with them? Number 17 – Overall Appearance How someone dresses and presents themselvescan say volumes about them.
If the person has their hair in place, theirclothing pressed, and they show attention to style, they may be very detail oriented.
Someone with a more casual wardrobe or “bedhead” might be creative, or just messy.
And then take someone who looks unkempt andsmelly – they could simply be a really lazy person.
Number 18 – Copying Body Language If you’ve never tried to read people before, this is something you probably haven’t noticed.
But, pay close attention to it in the future, because when someone mimics your body language, it means they feel so good about you, thatthey want to harmonize with you.
It’s a sign that the conversation is goingwell and that the other party is receptive to your message.
This is done unconsciously – as no one walksaround with the intention of outright copying someone.
But when we’re comfortable with people, we have a tendency to do what they do.
Some of us are pretty good at reading thesigns that people give off.
While others are so bad, that they need theother person to come out and straight-up tell them what’s on their mind.
Reading people isn’t easy, but if you cando it, it’s a fantastic skill to have.
Of course, everyone is different, so interpretingtheir words and actions may or may not always be accurate.
But hopefully, with these tips, you’ll bewell on your way to becoming better at reading people.
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