– What's up, beautiful people? It's your homegirl Maya Shamelessall up in your building, and she is back.
I have been traveling, andthe traveling will not stop.
I'm just gonna continue to travel.
But I really wanted to doa video on traveling solo, and it's something that I'vebeen doing more and more of, and for my birthday I decidedto go to Colombia by myself.
And I have traveled by myself previously, but this was the first time in a minute that I went to a foreign country, that I didn't speak the language, that I didn't know many people, and the people that I did knowI didn't know them very well.
But it was, oh my gosh, I loved it so much.
I had so much fun.
I was on my “Eat, Pray, Love” moment.
If you haven't read the book, you've gotta read the book.
A lot of you asked me on Instagram to share tips on traveling solo, so I'm gonna share my perspective.
Mind you, I'm older, andI've built my confidence up to do this solo.
(gentle music) Tip number one.
If you've never traveled by yourself out of your own country, I highly recommend that youfirst build your confidence.
Start traveling out of your neighborhood, out of your city, out ofyour state, your time zone, and that's how I did it.
I'm born and raised in Toronto, Canada, and the first time I left, oh, I think I was 18, andthat's when I came to LA.
So I thought about traveling overseas but I'm like, “I'm 18, Idon't feel very confident.
“Where can I go where I canstill speak the language?” So that's why I came to California.
Also, if you haven'teven traveled, period, how about you travel solo like date night you, yourself, and you? Movies, dinner, lunch.
Some people get awkwardabout being by themselves.
I used to go to themovie theaters by myself, and I remember it wasn't a big deal when I was in university.
I think it was $2 movies on Tuesdays.
It was something ridiculous, so everyone wouldgenerally go by themselves.
But I remember when I moved to Vancouver and I didn't really have anyone to go to the movies with, I was new there.
I went by myself, but then I got so embarrassed.
This is pre-Shameless Maya.
And so I'm in a movie threat, I recognize something coming.
They were in the row behind me and they saw me and I pretendedlike I didn't see them.
And there was two guyssitting beside me, (laughs) I started acting like I knew them.
And I was just like that, you only see my head, so behind it looks likeI'm talking to them and I'm just like this.
(Maya laughs) Yo, so that's why I build your confidence, because if you can't even go to a movie theater by yourself, I don't know how far you're gonna get in a different country.
And I was really concernedwhen someone was like, “I've never left the country, “I booked the same hostelthat you stayed at.
And then they asked me fordirections on how to get there, and that's just not howyou go about doing this.
Don't just follow peopleand what they're doing.
You've gotta listen to your own voice and do what feels comfortable.
So, build your confidence, travel out of your comfort zone, and start small.
Hey! Okay, so the reason why Isay build your confidence is because you don't wanna make yourself an easy target for predators.
People are looking to takeadvantage of other people, and it's happened to me.
So, you wanna have thelook of confidence on face, you wanna project that confident energy.
Because if you're afraid, if you're fearful, if you have a question mark on your face, you make yourself an easy target.
So hence why, step numberone, build your confidence.
And then step two, take that confidencewith you in the world, and then I highly recommendreading this book.
“How to Win Friends & Influence People.
” It's something that I read years, I'm talking like 12 years ago.
I read it when I was livingin Vancouver, actually.
But some of the tips that that book has is be genuinely curious aboutother people, ask questions.
You don't wanna travel, or you just don't wanna be that person that sucks energy out of everyone.
For me, it's all about giving.
If you can give warm, confident, positive energy, you're gonna attract that energy back.
If you have a negative demeanor, a negative disposition, and you're traveling to certain countries that don't have running water, that don't have electricitythat are running 24/7, you don't wanna have this stink attitude because then your tripis gonna be negative, you're gonna hate it, you're gonna be like, “Why did I do this tripthat Maya told me to do?” Don't do that.
So you've gotta check your attitude, and the book “How to WinFriends & Influence People” is a very good book for anyone to read.
I highly recommend it.
Specially for younegative people out there.
How did I meet friends orpeople while I was traveling? Again, if you read thatbook, it'll give you tips, but let me just break it down for you because you are on YouTubeand you want things for free and you want them right now.
I literally had to tellmyself, “Maya, be open today, ” because I found myself, even though I was, you know, out of my comfort zone, I was still in my ownworld, my own little bubble.
You can be out of your comfort zone but still be in your own comfort bubble.
And I found I was emotionally leaning on my friend's cousin, Come.
Don't try to lean inand be their plus one.
Meet people, that's why you're here.
So I literally said, “I open myself fully “to give and receive love.
” Because I was being a real resting B face.
And when I did that, that'swhen I started meeting people.
That's when I met Max.
But just being not on your phone, so then a naturalconversation starts to happen when you are curious about this person.
So, oh, what brings you to Colombia? Oh, you're from Sweden, why doyou've got an English accent? So those questions, andthat's pretty much how I started to meet people.
Invest first in findingmore about this person before you start taking and stealing.
So that's how I met Max.
And then I also met Daniela, this talented photographer.
I like to start off with things that are present in our surroundings, like, oh, cool shirt.
Or, oh, you know, what'sthat on your face? No, don't do that.
I hate when guys do that.
There's this thing that guys do, in New York it happens to me all the time, when there's like, “Oh there'ssomething in your teeth, ” and you're like, oh.
“So, what's your name?” I'm like, “Fuck you, isthat what you wanted?” I hate that shit.
So don't do that.
Compliments, questions, curiosity, that will get you friends.
Also, I met Jack andMatt, two English guys.
I just started asking them questions.
I'm like, “Do you knowwhere the bus terminal is?” So we literally are walkingtogether to the bus terminal.
We ended up buying thebus tickets together because they thought wewere traveling as a group so we got a discount.
And then, once we got a discount, we sat together in the bus.
Once we got to where we needed to go, we exchanged WhatsApp.
Y'all know about the WhatsAppwhen you're international.
And then we were justcommunicating through that.
Do you wanna join us for dinner? Yes.
What is this place, howdid you hear about it? Oh, where did you meet theperson that told you about it? So just these natural conversations that are the foundation for friendships.
And I met so many people cool, fun people.
And oh my God, honestly, thistrip was just so much fun.
I had no idea I could have so much fun with complete strangers.
You think sometimes yourfun and your happiness is hinged on the people that you love, and it really comes down to you, and if you love yourselfand love life enough, you'll just continuallyattract that wherever you go, whoever you're around.
So, once you have this information and you start to journeyout there in the world, be safe and be smart.
If you have the latest and greatest phone, put a crappy phone case on.
Don't be flashy.
I wasn't wearing this.
I wasn't wearing designer nothing.
I was literally wearing things that basically would keep me cool in the sweltering heat.
But I'm mindful and cognizantof what I have with me.
The last thing you wannado, again, is be a target.
People are always outthere, you just don't know, so you'd better be safe than sorry.
Be mindful of your surroundings, both on the street and in thedwelling you're staying at.
Again, just don't pull things out.
I had a drone, I wasso, I was like, “Dammit! “I'm making myself a target.
” But I tried to do it inareas where it wasn't flashy, 'cause I don't wanna advertise, look, I've got this expensive thing that anyone could shankfrom me when I'm alone.
But these are things that cross my mind.
I think like a con artist, (chuckles) and I have to be mindful of what I do and where and who I'm around.
So just being aware of your surroundings.
Don't be flashy.
And don't be out here being shameless, if you know what I mean.
Be shameless but don't be shameless.
Yes, be mindful of what you'rewearing and what you have, be mindful of your surroundings, but also be mindful of the people.
I met some great people, and who knows, they could be psychopaths, but I met some really cool people.
Shout out to Max.
And I remember we were both walking and it was loud, it was crowded, then all of a sudden it got quiet.
We turned down thisstreet and it got quiet.
I was being so dumb, not paying attention.
I was in my own world, talking.
And Max was the one who was like, “Maya, let's turn around and go back.
“We're not doing this.
” And then I came to my sensesand realized, oh yeah.
It's late at night, we're in a city thatwe're not familiar with, we are clearly tourists, so let's go back.
So we did that.
I also think, like, Max, you could have killed me.
You could have killed me.
(laughs) But you didn't.
So, again, you don't wannabe suspect on everyone, because I'm like, yay, be open.
You just don't know.
You've gotta be mindful andbe aware and pay attention.
If people are giving you bad vibes, you've gotta listen to your gut.
But you've gotta actually listen.
If you're not even trying tolisten, you won't even know.
The last thing I would want for you to do is be open to this worldof meeting new people that are gonna (babbles).
I've seen too many horror movies.
(laughs) What is that horror moviewhere they sell your organs, where there were all thesetourists and they're being dumb and then they're cut open, like, “Oh, my organs are beingsold in the black market.
” Don't be that person.
Don't die on me, please, don't.
Shameless Maya told me to do it.
I didn't tell you shit.
Resources, whether that'sonline or asking people.
And this is when “How to WinFriends & Influence People” comes into play, because when you're curious, open-minded to other people's experience, when you're confident and positive, you enrich your experience.
So I went there with one plan, which was to check outthis one city, Santa Marta.
And it wasn't even, itwas north of Santa Marta, like an hour north.
And then I ended up doingfour little cities and towns, and that was just like, shewas free-styling on 'em.
And that was because I wasopen to meeting people, excited to learn more, and because of that myexperience was just kaboom.
They also directed me to some resources.
So, if you have any resources, let us all know in the comments below.
com is whatthey shared with me.
She wasn't a boogie five-star hotel.
I was in the most beautiful places.
A hostel is essentially a place where a lot of youngertravelers share a room.
And they have optionswhere you can share a room, where it's like a dormstyle of four to 30 people.
But you can also have the option, depending on where you go, on having your own private room, even your own private home.
It's kind of like ahotel without the resorts and amenities of a hotel.
So I was staying at Costeno Beach Hostel, and the owners of thatare actually a cousin of my friend from Toronto.
So I had been meaning togo here for four years for my birthday, and I kept putting it off, putting it off, and I finally did.
Once I was there at Costeno, because I had so much fun there, I wanna have that same energyof just being adventurous, and I haven't beenadventurous in Los Angeles.
So I've been going to resources, which is why I'm sayingshare in the comments below.
I also follow hashtags on Instagram.
I use the hashtag #ThingsToDoInLA, so I see it on my feed and I'm like, oh, I should check it out.
Next tip, have a fluid itinerary.
And what I mean by thatis have goals and plans and what you wanna see and do, but be open and fluid to that changing.
My flight was canceled, I was a day late, and then I was like, you know what? I'm gonna extend mytrip, I extended my trip.
And I had said I'm onlygoing to this one location, and instead it turned into four and I met so many fun, cool people.
I went to Minca, I went to Cartagena.
I just went to so many placesand I just, it didn't.
I was so happy about thatbecause my one itinerary was go to this one beach and go surfing, and instead I was open andfluid and I ended up doing more.
The other pitfall which I alsohad when I went to Australia, which was having too much to do.
When I went to Australia, I was like, I'm going to Sydney, Melbourne, Cairns, Byron Bay.
I was all over the place andI found myself stressed out by the travel.
I hopped from plane to plane, three hours, three hours, two hours, and it was just, uh, it was too much.
You'll learn the more travel that you do, having buffers and being open, that is the perk about traveling solo.
You do what you wanna do.
So if you wanna sleep in, guess what? You're sleeping in.
You wanna read a bookin a hammock all day? That's what you get to do.
If you wanna go hiking, you get to go hiking.
Those are the things that I loved doing when I was by myself.
But again, my itinerary was pretty open.
And when I went there, again, one mission, but when I was there Istarted to plan things out the night before.
So even doing things the night before could be a little strategy up your sleeve.
Another helpful tip.
Don't rely on your phone.
Your phone is your enemy when you travel to foreign countries.
Your Wi-Fi don't work, your data don't work, your apps don't work.
So bring books with you.
Whether it is a map, even language books.
A lot of people rely on Google Translate, and it's cute when itworks, when you have data.
But if you don't, you're screwed.
And while we're on it, bring a battery chargerwhile you're out there.
The clutch thing that Ilearned to stack packing with is a power bar.
That has been life-changing when you travel to different countries that have different outlets, because you have different outlets and sometimes you lose, you forget, you didn't realize ithad a different outlet 'cause you didn't do yourhomework the night before, you can only charge one thing at a time.
But if you have a phone, a laptop, a camera, whatever else you have.
Next tip: be shameless with your photos.
This is the time to be shamelessif you're traveling solo, 'cause guess what? I didn't have no photographer with me, I didn't have no botographer boyfriend, friend-tographer, nothing.
I literally had to go up to strangers and be like, “Permiso.
” (laughs) So one tip is take the shot and show them.
You can do that if you haveall the time in the world.
Or you can frame it upand hand your phone off and have them stand there.
Do as much as you can to frame your shot, and then abandon your shameand just get the shot.
What's important is do it for the Gram, do it for the Gram, do it for the Gram.
I was in a restaurant, and we were at the waterfalls in Minca, and I'm like, I saweveryone and their friends, everyone and their friends taking all the photos for the Gram and I'm by myself.
I can't ask the dog that followed me to the damn waterfall, so I had to ask thewaiter at the restaurant.
And thank goodness I got a good one because he was giving me allkinds of shots and angles.
Don't be afraid to, ifyou don't get the shot, either ask them againor ask somebody else.
Don't be afraid to get your shot, okay? People are complementing me, follow me on Instagram if you haven't on how I go certain shots.
But if I didn't get it, like in Australia, I didn't get my shot.
I asked like three people, and then I was like portrait mode on.
Could you just take my photo? Thanks.
Is that your girlfriend? Oh, nevermind, I don't need it anyway.
Those are my tips ontraveling solo, solo dolo, on your ones, by yourself.
Share all the tips that youhave in the comments below.
I'm not a pro at this.
I'm not the shut up and goDynamic Duo, Damon & Jo, so let me know in the comments below.
Why am a rapper? But yes, let me know where yournext travel destination is, and all the resources forall of us that wanna know.
Until next time, rememberto do you, be you, and stay true, boo.
Be shameless, be safe, be curious, be creative, and be open to love.
As you fly.