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Stanford Psychologist Says Parents Should Do This to Raise Confident Kids Carol Dweck, world-renowned Stanford University’s psychologist, in decades of research on achievement and success, has discovered a truly groundbreaking idea.

The power of our mindset.

In her early research, she wanted to study how people cope with failures by watching how kids grapple with hard problems.

So Carol came to visit a group of students in a school and gave them a series of puzzles to solve.

The first ones were very easy, but the next ones were hard.

Surprisingly, confronted with the hard puzzles, they did not give up.

One 10-year-old boy yelled out loud: “I love a challenge!!!”.

Another looked up with a pleased expression and said: “I was hoping this would be informative.

” Carol always thought you coped with failure or you didn’t cope with failure.

But she never thought that anyone LOVED failure.

Not only weren’t these kids discouraged by failure, they didn’t even think they were failing.

They just simply thought that they were learning.

At that time.

Carol thought that human qualities were carved in stone.

You were smart or you weren’t, and failure meant you weren’t.

On the contrary, smart people will always arrange successes and never make failures.

you could stay smart.

Struggles, mistakes, and perseverance were just not parts of the whole being smart picture.

However, those kids has just proved that, human qualities such as intellectual skills could be cultivated through effort.

So, what does this mean for us? It shows us how a mindset can have a profound effect on your life.

And that there are two mindsets: Fixed mindset and Growth mindset.

If you believe that your qualities are carved in stone, you are showing a Fixed Mindset.

You believe you only possess a fixed amount of intelligence, a fixed personality, and a fixed moral character.

Then you have to try very hard to show how smart you are! This is also why people with a Fixed Mindset shy away from challenges.

They are scared their deficiencies could be unmasked through making mistakes.

The Growth Mindset is the opposite.

Growth Mindset based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through effort.

Growth Mindset doesn’t mean everyone has the same talents and abilities, but it does mean everyone can grow through hard work, mentoring, and perseverance.

So why waste your time trying to look smart when you could actually be getting smarter? Let’s take a quick look at the world of sports: Michael Jordan.

Michael Jordan actually wasn’t a natural.

But he was the hardest working athlete in the history of sport.

It’s well-known that Jordan was cut from the high school varsity team, he wasn’t recruited by the college he wanted to play for, and he wasn’t drafted by the first two NBA teams that could have chosen him.

Weren’t they foolish? Now we know he was perhaps the greatest basketball player ever.

When we look at him he see MICHAEL JORDAN.

But at that point, MICHAEL JORDAN was only Michael Jordan.

When Jordan was cut from the high school varsity team, he was devastated.

So his mother told him “to go discipline himself”.

Boy, did he listen? After that he used to leave the house at 6 in the morning to go practice for 3 hours before school.

He had a Growth Mindset.

He believed he could improve his skills through hard work, and that’s how he became the Jordan we all know today.

So what can we do to engrave Growth Mindset into ourselves and others? Just knowing about the two mindsets can produce incredible results.

On the other hand, the other thing we can do is praise more wisely.

When parents praise their child for the process they engage in, their perseverance, their hard work, they learn to stick to challenges.

Praising talent, on the other hand, makes them vulnerable.

When you tell your child: “You did that so quickly, I'm impressed.

” They subconsciously hear: “If I didn't do it quickly, you wouldn't be impressed.

” Or: “You got an A without working, you're so smart!”.

They actually think: “Oh, if I work, you're not gonna think I'm smart.

” Instead, when you give praise to your child, you should try to focus on her hard work and not the so-called “talent” such as, “I like the way you tried all kinds of strategies on that math problem until you finally got it.

Also telling people they are “smart” is one of the biggest mindset crimes you can commit.

In one study, they even discovered that telling people they are smart lowers their IQ! Here's a common question people have about mindsets: Can you have both mindsets? Many people have elements of both.

You can have different mindsets in different areas.

For example, I might think that my personality is fixed, but that my intelligence can be developed.

Or that my social skills are fixed, but my creativity can be developed.

We always have a choice.

Mindsets are just beliefs.

Like the way we can change our beliefs, we always have the power to change our mind.

So try your best to put yourself in the Growth Mindset every time you face a challenge, that way you will be better than yesterday.

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