You and I want to know what it takes tobe happy we have to understand what is our current blueprint of how our life'ssupposed to be now what do I mean by blueprint well we have a story in ourhead of how life's supposed to be some people's story is
you work hard inschool you become really great you're a nice person you're a good person andthen you grow up and you take care of yourself and you find the ideal man andyou fall in love you have a white picket fence and you have three perfectchildren and you live
happily ever after somebody else's story the old story wasyou work really hard in school you excel in college you're going to work for abig corporation and you move up through the ranks until you're the President orchairman of the company and you become successful respected throughout lifethese are some
old stories obviously the stories that we hear today of whatpeople's lives are supposed to be like are completely diverse we no longer havethese little archetypes but when our type still seems to remain thatarchetype is in order for you to really feel like you're enough many peoplebelieve they have
to achieve an enormous amount they may do it in different waysthey may do it by building a company and taking a public when they're 27 or 25years old or you know they find and create a new technology or they become avery special doctor but we live in a
culture in the West that teaches peoplethat you're not enough unless you do something really special and unique andwe define special and unique and interesting ways a schoolteacher is notspecial and unique a mother who stays home with her children day and nightsculpting their minds their bodies their souls and
their future is not special welive in a world today where we treat teachers like they're nobody and paythem accordingly we wonder why our children seem to have challenges oflearning and growing or being engaged in school we spend thousands of dollars onsome item like a computer but what we
look at overall we invest in for theteacher and for that person is the personal connection with them is sosmall we live in a society where many women look down and say well you're justa housewife you're just a mother see some of the pain we have in our societyis
not because there's one right or one wrong approach but because we tryto make everybody fit into some particular approach to life here'swhat's gonna make you happy or make you unhappy in life it's real simple let'sdo a quick test if you're in a situation right now where you look
at your life Iknow there's an area of your life that you'd probably feel pretty darn goodabout even if you're not happy with your finances I bet you feel damn good closeto your kids or if you're not close to your kids maybe you don't have any kidsmaybe you feel
really good about your career if you're doing not so good inyour career maybe you got a really great body that you've trimmed down orstrengthened up or you know you really shaped yourself the way you wantmuscularly or in the way you look or if that's not happening made me
feel reallyspecial connection with God we're really close to your mother or father yourfamily whatever almost everybody has an area of their life if you're really goodabout it they're honest if they're fair to themselveswhat's any of your life you really feel happy about I want you think about itfor
a moment truthfully what's an area in your life today that if you wanted tobe happy about it you really could feel proud about it you could feel like so noyou're doing darn well in and if you're really hard on yourself there's still anarea what's an area I want
you to think of it right now so once you think ofthat area whether it's your body or your finances or your career or your intimaterelationship or your relationship with your kids your relationship with yourCreator whatever it is I want you to think about why are you happy with
thatair of your life right now today why are you happy with that area of your liferight now today I really think about if you're in a seminar with Matt have youwrite this down if you can you can put me on hold here for a second because I'dlike to
reveal to you what the formula is for happiness and if I say there's aformula for happiness and here's what it is you're gonna go yeah yeah sure that'swhat he says but if you put down the answer and we can see the formulas realwithout me telling you what it
is you get to look at your own life and say itmatches you're gonna know this is right so you could stop this right now if youwant put me on hold and just write down what's an area of your life you'rereally really happy about you're really pleased with or
you could be if youwanted to focus on it and why are you happy with that part of your life rightnow even if you're not happy with everythingwhat's the year you're happy with and why put me on hold right now or you'renot gonna do that just think for a
moment why specificbe real why now when I asked this if you turned me back on now if I ask this ofan audience I'll have people write this down for a few minutes and I'll call inpeople I'll say share with a person next to you first what do you
have you're notwhy are you happy in that area and be specific I have to be share how peoplestand up I'll call in a variety of people and I say hey I'm telling me whatare you happy about she'll say well honestly I'm really happy with my bodyshe does I
never thought I'd say that but I used to be so unhappy with it andyou know I finally I did some things I push myself through and now I exerciseregularly I mean I'm not perfect but I feel fit I feel strong I feel energeticand that's really I don't know
it just feels good to menow I say everybody I'm now gonna show you what the form in the fraud businessis and it's real simple I want to reveal it to you so you don't ever forget itwhenever you're happy with the area of your life it's because right now
yourcurrent life experience I call it your LC your life conditions the conditionsof your life your life conditions in that area match or equal to yourblueprint your story your belief about how life should be in that area so thiswoman says to me I'm really happily my body because it's
not perfect herblueprint is I don't need to be perfect but it's so much better than it wasI'm fit and I'm strong and I have this energy her mental blueprint says Ishould be fit strong and have energy I don't need to be perfect but I should bethat way well
in my life my body matches how Ithink it should be I feel good about my life well that's somebody else I'll sayyou know tell me there you're happy with someone else to say well I'm reallyhappy with my career and why well I'm doing better than I even thought
I wouldbe I mean I'm ahead of the schedule of where I hoped I'd be at this stage I'mworking at this level in this company and I have these skills and this abilityand it's even better than I thought well once again listen this person is happywith this area of
their life because their current life conditions in thearea called their career are even better than they expected they would be betterthan their blueprint better than their belief about how it should be he what'sreally better you tend to be over the moon but one woman would say you know
Ikind of tell you I said I'm the happy he's ever been in my whole life how comeshe goes because I have this man in my life and I'm in lovewith him and he loves me and I can be myself with him and he we have thisincredible intimacy and
this passion and we want to be with each other all thetime and I never get bored with him well what's her blueprint you want to be withsomebody that you could have total intimacy with somebody who you love andloves you those are part of her rules her beliefs of
how it should be she saidyou know it needs to be I never want to be with anybody else I want to be withhim every moment her blueprint about how life should be and the way she lives herrelationships even better than she hoped when it's better than you hope
you'regonna be totally excited so think about this then what's an area you're nothappy with let's see if we can find the formula for unhappiness if the formulafor happiness is to be able to meet your expectations or exceed them that wereally make sure excited but to be happy at
least Mita doesn't have to be perfectbut if you generally are meeting what you expect you want from your life inthat area feel good right conditions match blueprint feel good so what makesyou feel bad or creates pain stress frustration little easy way to figure itout answer this question what's
an area of life you're not happy with let me behonest with yourself and even if your life is great all kinds of ways I'm surethere's an area you'd like to improve anybody who's honest if they're doinggreat in their career very often don't take care of their bodies so
much ifthey're really focused on their body you know very often they find themselves ina position where they're not spending enough time with their kids or ifthey're spending time with their kids their intimate relationships not doingso well because it's the nature of human beings to focus on areas they
feelcomfortable with and strong in and give those time and the areas they don't feelso strong and they go I don't have time for it what do you really say guys Idon't feel very competent that area so what's an area of your life that you arenot as happy with
I mean it's healthy honestly to look atareas and say I don't like it I want more this whole concept of abreakthrough is about how do I close the gap between where I am right now andthat's what we're here to do is like here's what I want to be
here's where Iam it's healthy to see there's a gap that makes me have this hunger thisdrive to grow to feel alive to expand as a human being so what's an area you'renot pleased with is it your body is it your finances isit your career is it your spiritual
life or lack thereof in terms of feelingconnected in that area is it your kids like what's the area what's the areathat's not where you want it to be and then answer for a moment why aren't youhappy with that area of your life right now why specifically today are
you nothappy with that area of your life at this stage of your time of your lifeagain you can stop this and write it downmight be useful for you or if you gonna keep it running stop it and you'll turnit right back on I'll kick into it do that
now or if you kept it running thenjust I'll give you what happens I have people write this down and they don'tlike this exercise so much oh I don't like my body or I don't like my financesI don't like my career I don't like the person I'm in a
relationship with Idon't like myself the way I'm in relationships why they write it all downhow people share back and forth I call on people and the lessons pretty clear Itell people in advance here's the formula for unhappinessI'll show you before you do anything else when your life conditions
when yourlife conditions the way you're living your life today does not match itdoesn't equal your blueprint your story of how it's supposed to be then you'regonna have disappointment frustration or pain if your life is way different thanthe way you think it's supposed to be you can have enormous
pain if it's alittle different you might feel stressed make sense so people stand up and I saidtell me you know what CEO you're not happy with and the person says well youknow I'm really not happy with my finances and I go why and they saybecause I'm doing worse
now than I was five years ago I made mistakes in themarket and at this stage of my life I should have this much money and I don'thave it and I don't know how to change it and it's making me crazy and why arethey crazy you say well because
they don't have their economic needs met noyou cannot have your economic needs met and you could still be okay but when youhave an idea this is what my need is and I did the wrong thing my life doesn'tmatch how I'm supposed to be that's when people get a
little crazyso you think about it if you grew up taking care of folding your own clothesmaking your own meals going to this doing the grocery shopping cleaning thebedroom cleaning the house vacuuming taking out the trash and you did thatyour whole life then if you have to do that
later on you don't feel like youhave economic pain because you don't have a maid but if you grew up anenvironment where everything was done for you you never have to work and nowsuddenly you have to work incredibly hard to just pay enough money to payyour bills and all
of a sudden food is building up and the house is dirty andyour clothes aren't folded and nothing matches you might find yourself reallyangry and frustrated because you have a different story about how life'ssupposed to be than how it is someone else will say well I'll tell you whybecause
I'm in a situation now where you know I'm 30 pounds everything I shouldbe should be the key word there are people there are people in all cultureswho love being big there are people that'll walk around and someone elsemight think they're massively overweight but they're gone I own this
honey andthey really truly they match their blueprint big is beautiful cuz theirideas big is beautiful I'm big that's beautiful matches my blueprintrock and roll I'm happy as can be somebody else can look like a twig andbe stressed out saying I hate my body because their blueprint says I
should bethe skinniest thing on earth and I'm not skinny enough am I making sense whenyour life conditions don't match your blueprint you're gonna have pain buthere's when you suffer well ask people who here has been through the dark nightof the soul who's been here in a situation where
you feel like like likelife life isn't worth living or we feel like a pain that just will never go awayand I'll people write down those experiences like Joaquin so you'll beginto understand what the issue is I'm talking about here while Keane if yourecall was in a situation where
this man felt like there was no reason to live hecouldn't work he couldn't do anything his life was worthless why did he thinkthat because he had a blueprint and his blueprint said I need be an NBAbasketball player or at least a professional basketball player I need tobe able
to make money and have this great lifestyle because that's whatmakes me worthwhile as a human being that's what makes my family respect memy my my uncle's my aunts I am thesuccessful one in the family and I make the money I support everybody he's agood man he didn't come
just to be successful hetook care of his mother his family's he tried to be an inspiration for peoplewalking orchids as a man I was always going out on his free time and trainingkids and showing them the pathway to freedom how they could play basketballand get free like he
did and get out of the inner city so this man is not aselfish man but he knew this is the way to be worthwhile this is the way to beable to give to people this is the way to take care of your family and all of asudden one
night what happened that way was taken from him he has a stroke andanother night his life conditions make it impossible to be who he has to be orhe feels like he's worthless to get it we have an identity we have a story ofhow we're supposed to be and
if life somehow gets in the way of that story wefeel pain but if we feel we have no control that's when we go into sufferingsee it's one thing to say my life doesn't match my blueprint I got to loseweight that might stress you out or my life doesn't
match my blueprint I'm notin a relationship I got to get in one that might motivate you even you mightnot like it but you're gonna find a way to get on with or my career doesn'tmatter I should be you could change it but when you start believing that yourlife
doesn't match your blueprint and you have no control to change it you'rehelpless that's when people suffer and so this week for your breakthrough it'sa chance for you to start to take a look at your blueprint anywhere you're reallyhaving pain yeah look if you're doing great in some area
of your lifecelebrate of course and I'm sure there are many areas you are but life isreally a series of growth spurts I mean two things in life make you feel alivegrowing and giving and what's really wonderful about this man Joaquin is hewas constantly growing trying to get better
trying to be a better team made abetter basketball player think about it when he didn't make the team's and evenmake the NBA he didn't give up he worked even harder the guy was always strivingstriving to become something and he became it and hekeep dit and then life took
it from him isn't that the common denominator withso many of the people and the stories of this six-part series that you saw thesesix specials I mean Frank and Kristen had a blueprint of what life wassupposed to be about we're supposed to get married and have children and we'regonna
have our own business and all of a sudden life doesn't match the blueprintand suddenly there's depression because in their case they said there's nothingwe could do but they were wrong they are wrong because they discovered that Frankdiscovered I can make a difference in my wife the chair even
though I didn'tcreate this and then ask for this chair does not define me I can become morethan I was before I can have the impact on my wife I can have children we had tochange his blueprint because we couldn't change all the conditions of his lifedoes that make
sense I couldn't get him to physically walk again maybe somedayhe will but we can't count on that well we gotta count on is that he can befulfilled by seeing he isn't helpless that I did that to a series ofexperiences that violated what he thought he couldn't do the
same thingwas true with almost every one of the people we worked with at some level andin Joaquin's example it was also true our Keane said well I I can't ever havethis quality of life again because I'm not a professional basketball player andhe was locked into that mindset and
all of us get locked at times but to hiscredit to a system of steps we were able to break him out of that where we gethim to see that he isn't helpless because here's your choice watch thisnow if you're suffering if you're in pain your life doesn't match
how youthink it should be and you think you're helpless to change it now you have onlythree choices choice one blame something and that's what Joaquin did if yourecall he blamed his coach he blamed what happened to him and of course thesethings were outside his control but he blamed
his coach and a big part of thehealing if you watch this session was bringing his coach in and getting him tosee hey you know what all that anger all that resentment inside of you Joaquin ait's not based on the truth and be like Nelson Mandela said you know
havingresentment in your soul is like drinking poison and hoping theyour enemy will die it doesn't work that way but when Joaquin was able to breakout his breakthrough was a change in perception to realize this coach wasn'tstopping me I just felt like I lost everything and so I don't
know how tochange it so I'm looking for something to be mad about someone to blame so so Idon't have to blame myself or I don't have to feel so helpless because whenyou're angry you don't feel so helpless you feel strong for the moment eventhough it's a fake strength
when he was able to make that breakthrough he couldstop blaming because these are three choices when life doesn't match how youthink it should be blame something an event someone else or yourself as wetalked about earlier in the series blame games just destroy you there's noprogress when you plan
for the moment you feel okay but nothing changes whatare your real choices you only have two choices in life if life doesn't matchyour blueprint you either have to change your life that is you kind of say youknow what my body isn't there I'm gonna go work out my
relationship isn't thereI'm gonna change it you know I'm not making one I gotta make I'm gonna retoolI'm gonna get a new skill I'm gonna go back to school I'm gonna start abusiness I'm gonna do something you have to do something to change your life orin order for you
to be happy if you can't change your life you're gonna haveto change your blueprint usually a life that requires a little bit of each doesthat make sense and if you've changed your take change your life and changeyour blueprint you can have an extraordinary life and what youwitnessed this
man do was once he let go of his anger and his denial once hestarted to look at things he began to find by spending time with his familythat he was worthwhile being loved while he played basketball or not of coursehe'd love to play basketball but professional basketball is
no longerpart of it and we had to get Joaquin to shift that and Joaquin is a metaphor forall of us because all of us are gonna have times in our life when what we wantor think life should be like isn't gonna match how life really is those momentsif
we blame our life goes into pain if we change we can change our life andmatch our blueprint but we have to also know when it's not within our controland that's how we're able to make a shift to change what our story is forour life what our expectations are
not by lowbut by changing what that model really is helping us make sense to you I'llgive you a great example years ago I do a lot of work withbusiness people celebrities people of all kinds the walks of life and I wasdealing with a group of people and they
knew a very very powerful celebrity andwithout to give that person privacy I won't tell you too many details whocan't figure out exactly who it is but it would be a person who was verysuccessful as a woman who was extremely attracted by cultural standards a womanwho's had a lot
of dear friends a lot of deep respect so great skill greatability extremely talented quite attractive quite wealthy in financialterms and lots of great friends this would be for most people's idea theultimate blueprint if your life matches that description you must have anincredible life but ironically this particular individuals
famous as theywere was depressed all the time they had seemingly everything and yetthe person was depressed how do you get depressed when you're smart and you'restrong and you're beautiful and you got great friends and you're rich and you'refamous well it's real simple people said I don't know what
it is everyone's tryto help her she's been on the through counselling she's got all thesedifferent drugs nothing's working she's thinking antidepressants and she's stilldepressed which is not uncommon by the way because if you change the way youfeel physically but you still see your life doesn't match how you
think itshould be at some level and you feel like you're helpless to change it you'regonna be depressed so I said bring her to me I said I can help her I know thatsounds like hyperbole but I absolutely can help her well how do you know thatTony because I
already know what the problem is I know if someone's depressedit's because they feel helpless because their life doesn't match how they thinkit should be I just don't know what her blueprint is but we'll find out what itis and we'll either help her change her life or help her
change a blueprint orboth long story short and very quickly I'll tell you the core of it which cameto me and she spent maybe the first half an hour telling me apologizing saying Iknow I should be happier I know it's silly for me to be depressed I don'tknow why
I'm so depressed I I know I should be grateful for what I have and Iam grateful it was all these reasons why she knows sheshould feel good but still didn't I try to finally explain to her Lissa I don'tcare about that I care about you the fact that
you're not happy has nothingto do with what you have or don't have the fact that you're not happy is thatyour life doesn't match the way you think it should be and you have someidea of how you think it should be and worse if you're this the press that
forall this time you feel like you can't do anything youhave no power to change it you feel helpless and she looked at me in acertain way and I said so what is that what did you want your life to be likeshe goes well it sounds stupid I said
like I sound stupid to me she said wellI don't know I just always since I was a little girl dreamed that I would bemarried and I would have three basically perfect children and they would love metotally and I love my husband he loved me and I said okay
so how's that workingfor you so far and she said well I think you know cuz pretty famous person shesaid I'm divorced twice I have no children and now ex age and to give youa clue that age would be an age where having a child your own natural child
atleast barring a medical miracle is not going to happen so I said to her wellwhy don't you just adopt just no no no no no that's not it and so what I had todig under is whenever we talked and one of the earlier sessions about there'sthe surface problem
and then there's the deeper desire or need so I said to her Isaid well what if you couldn't have the husband but you could have the kids andshe smiled she said I'd take that I said well why not adopt a kid she goes now ithas to be my
own blood children so I kept digging to find out what was behindher blueprint because your blueprint is just a projection of what you think youneed to be happy but as human beings when I'm in Tori ously ineffective atknowing that's gonna make us happy so much what we think
we're gonna make ushappy we get there we go is this all there is so many things that we thinkare gonna make us miserable and we can never deal with we go through it we canhandle it we're not good at projecting these things all kinds of studies willshow this
so I said to her well what what are you hoping to get from thesethree children why do they have to be your blood children and she finally saidwell if my blood children I know they'll alwayslove me they'll never leave me what was she looking for unconditional love shehad
this big blueprint that said white house picket fence three childrenperfect husband you know all these different things but what was behindthat was a need and need to feel like she could have love that would becertain and wouldn't go away so I can help her meet that need so
I said to herI said well maybe one reason you don't have a husband is because every time youlook at one you're trying to figure out if he's gonna get you those three kidsin time and how that's gonna happen and maybe he feels a little stressed whenhe's low you're
looking at in this way because he can feel what's going onbehind your bed even if he doesn't know what the words are and she startedlaughs because I guess I've probably been that way a good portion of my lifeand she goes people wonder you know why I'm so uptightI
say you're uptight because you were felt like you're running out of timetrying to meet some picture but I said all you really want is love I said don'thave a lotta lovin new life tell me about your friends and gradually I gother to start seeing this love that she
was trying to get was already here itdidn't match the picture maybe maybe we could paint a new picture of what lifecould really be like and make sure that picture met her deepest needs that'sbasically we did Joaquin Joaquin wanted to be professional basketball playerbecause he loved basketball yes but
also because he wanted to be that man who wasa leader he wanted to be a man who was the good man he want to be the one whobrought energy to people he want to be the man people would look up to he wantto be the man who could
take care of his family and style all of us Amelie notjust his daughters and his wife but other people as well underneath it allhe wanted to know that he mattered and through the process that you saw in thisshow he began to find out that he didn't need to
be angry at the world that yeshis blueprint was taken from him but his soul and his ability to be a specialhuman being and I could touch other people was not taken from him that maybe his real gift was his ability to inspire young kids his ability to gethimself
to do whatever it took how did he become a professional basketballplayer unbelievable discipline unbelievable Drive he started bringingthat to picking up trash and the game started to change he started out funMary could come home and take care of his kids and pay his bills that doesn'tsolve everything but
it gives a way to suddenly regain himself when hesat around with all of his family you saw part of those scenes and if youwatch little areas of browsing this week you'll see some more scenes from hisfamily where you see him beginning to realize they love me whether I'm
rich orpoor they love me when a professional basketball player ornot they love me that's what he was really after and he got that it allowedhim to let go and say I can do other things that doesn't mean he won't havechallenges we're all gonna have challenges in our life
he admit itdoesn't mean that at times he won't was she's doing more but he's no longerstuck he's broken through because he now knows I have control I can change mylife or I can change my blueprint and what Ido I can fulfill it I can start to fail that
aliveness now here's the trap whatdo you think happens once you fulfill your blueprint regularly once you figureout how to do what you always dreamed of you always dream to live a certain wayand now you're living that way live in that way live in that way every day wellthe
human nervous system human spirit needs to grow so pretty soon you'll getbored with that and you'll come up with a new blueprint that's part of the partof life that's exciting see if you and I are from this day forward our gonna behappy just remember we've said it takes
two things grow and give a meaningfullife comes from growing that sense of progress and it comes from having lifenot just be about me but about we doing something that makes me feel connectedto other people besides myself that growth that sense of contribution fillsa deep spiritual need that we
all have if you are unhappy in your life you gotthree choices really to blame that's not a choice it's not gonna work don't blamesomeone else don't blame you that don't blame yourself just figure out whatyou're gonna do to change your life that's my specialty if you like mycoaching
or my team's coaching come visit with us come to an event come geta coach come to a program or we'll guide you through it more than just a fewminutes like this and we'll do it directly an environment that will shiftyou or change your blueprint you're gonna have to
rewire what's going oninside and that's what we focus on as well so I hope this journey has been aninteresting one for you I hope that's opened up your eyes to what it takes togo from where you are to where you want to be it takes changing your emotionalpattern
to change bringing presents to your life it takes realizing you haveproblems compared to somebody else in putting your life in perspective ittakes the ability to deal with those extreme stresses that happen in yourlife by questioning your limiting beliefs and again if we'd love to coachyou and show you
how to change those in a permanent way where it happensautomatically just like lifting weights so often till the muscle is always thereand you find yourself able to follow through it takes for you to be able tofigure out how to deal with crisis and how to turn it aroundit
takes facing your fear it takes pushing yourself through what used tostop you it takes putting yourself in a positionwhere you connect to what's more important than just yourself what youvalue than just yourself and it takes I think in this case also the ability torealize that no matter what
happens to you you're more than that moment you'remore than the story you think you're supposed to be and that even when you'renot matching what you think you need to be maybe there's a reason for that maybeyou're having to find a different part of yourself that's gonna fulfill you
ina much deeper level sometimes failing to get your goal gives you your destiny Ican't tell you how many people I've known over the years and had an idea ofwhat they thought their life was supposed to be like and they didn'tachieve it they got miserable and upset and frustrated
and one day an openinghappened and they went oh my god thank God that didn't happenI think it's Garth Brooks had a great song and it's a song about when he wasin high school and he was in love with this girl infatuated with her and shedidn't even know that
he existed and he prayed to God every day that she wouldnotice him that she would fall in love with him and then sure enough she neverdid he was so disappointed his blueprint didn't match his life didn't match itbecause she didn't even know he existed and he felt this
suffering he could donothing to turn it around well 15 years later he became a guy named Garth Brookssomebody everybody knew and he could rock you know stadiums with his energyand his song and his music and he goes back to being this high school reunionit was his 15 year
even if I remember correctly I don't member the exact yearbut all I remember is he said he saw that woman that he was so obsessed by Iwas looking forward to seeing her and now he was Garth Brooks and he met herand after he met her and spent some
time with her he wrote a song called thankGod for unanswered prayers sometimes not getting your blueprintsthe best thing that ever happen because the disappointment drives you to findsomething more important inside of you or not getting it makes you look foranother aspect of your life a spiritual aspect of
a family aspect a physicalaspect if you can just trust that life doesn't happen to you it happens for youthen you can find in any situation a benefit that can take your life to thenext level I don't care if you're Frank and Kristen I don't care if you're youknow
Mandy and Scott I don't care if you're Joaquin and Kim every one of usin our life is gonna feed faced situations where it feels like we havetotal trauma something that's been taken from us the real question is what areyou gonna do with it some people just live in
the story ofwhat they don't have and they have the right to do thatif Frank and Chris them lived in pain and felt bad we'd all say they have theright to do it it's a different thing what you have the right to do and whatyou deserve to give yourself
and others we have the ability to transcendwhatever happens to us there's something called post-traumatic growth very fewpeople know about it two people go through the same stress one's destroyedthe other grows what's the difference the people that grow will not give upthey don't have any excuses they find the
way to break through whatever ittakes and when they do three things happen number one they realize who theyreally are and what they're capable of they realize there's so much strongerthan they thought they were and number two they deepen all their relationshipsyou want to know who really cares about
you who you love and who loves you gothrough some tragedy go through some hard times all your Facebook friends goaway your real friends your real family shows up for you and you show up forthem and it deepens your relationships and the third thing happens if you canpush yourself
through and break through whatever challenges life gives you iseach time you have a breakthrough you get stronger and it almost like builds apsychological immunity in you where suddenly all of a sudden it's like stuffhappens you know stuffs gonna happen and you're not scared of it anymorecuz after you've
been through a stroke after you've been through you knowlosing the use of some of your body or senses after you lose a family memberand you break through to that you get to the other side it's like give me yourbest shot life it's almost like there's this psychological immunity
that saysI'm ready for whatever life will give me I don't want challenges but if they'rehere I know I can handle them that's strength of spirit is whatcreates a sense of freedom and joy in life and that strength of spiritbasically comes from living a life where you are constantly
a neverending feelinga way to improve yourself and to help others that's my mission and if we canserve you again in the future I hope you'll check us out there's threeways you can continue to participate with us you can come to an event comehave an experience with us live
in a weekend at our unleash the power withinor our date with destinies I think you'll find it's very different thanjust sitting here talking to you quietly sitting in front of your computer screenit's a rock'n'roll environment it's like going to the ballpark and having oneperson sitting there talking to
you versus being in the ball park or therock and roll concert you know with 50,000 there's an energy and a powerthat comes from it second is there's immersion here we talked for an hourthere's distractions and emails there it's total focus and we go for immersionwhere literally what we
did here over six weeks few little conversations allthat happens over and over again multiple times a day and you get thatshift so come to an event or call up and get a coach we have people that you canwork with and have a free coaching session and make sure
it's reallyvaluable for you but these are people that can check in with you to help makesure you break through you make the changes you want to make and your careeryour finances your body or your emotions or whatever area matters to you andfinally lastly and probably most importantly every
day you got to feedyour mind because every day most of us are turning on you know some form ofnews it shows up in our pocket and our blackberries or I you know iPods oriPhones I should say it shows up you know on your computer constantly itchases us and
it rarely does a good idea interrupt you really what you have to dois pursue the ideas pursue the experiences they're gonna change yourlife and we have a way to do it call thattime no extra time a way where you can keep feeding your mind the stuff thatreally matters
with some products or services so if you're interested in anyof those things be sure to click on your interest of an event or interest inhaving a free coaching session or maybe try one of our audio programs becausethe challenge here is with video got to sit here potentially and
watch me butwith audio you can do it while you're working out you can do it while you'recleaning the house you can do it while you're driving in the car or you'regetting to work we'd love to continue serving you in any way we can I knowI've gone long in
this session but I really want you to think about how can Iget my life the way I want it to be the way I do it is I figure out what myblueprint is and I update it for what life is I changed my lifematch my blueprint and suddenly
my life feels full and a lot thank you for thetime that we spent together here I've really enjoyed our time and I hope thatthis breakthrough series reminds you to never settle for less than you can benever settle for less than you can give or you can share live
strong live withpassion and god bless
